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Woman Finally Lost 40 Pounds After Stopping These 5 Diet Mistakes

Stop making these mistakes and start losing weight today.

We've all been there – trying every diet under the sun, cutting portions until we're starving, and still not seeing results. Chelsea Mae knows this struggle all too well. As a vegan mom from New Zealand who transformed her body by losing 40 pounds and keeping it off, she discovered that eating more of the right foods was the key to sustainable weight loss. After years of failed diets and self-sabotage, she cracked the code by understanding calorie density and the science behind weight loss. Now, she's sharing her hard-learned lessons to help you avoid the same pitfalls.

You're Eating Too Few Calories (And It's Causing Binges)

"I used to try eating like a bird, and it phenomenally backfired on me," Chelsea recalls in her post. She explains that severely restricting calories leads to an inevitable pendulum swing. When you set unrealistically low-calorie goals, you might stick to them for a few days or weeks, but eventually, willpower runs out.

"What happens is people eat really, really low calories, and they'll do that for a couple of days, or they might even do it for a couple of weeks," Chelsea explains. "Then you have a pendulum swing that happens when you get too hungry, and you run out of willpower, which is always going to happen at some point."

The math doesn't lie. "One tub of Ben & Jerry's is about 1500 calories – that's more than a day's worth of calories if you're trying to lose weight," she notes. These periodic binges can completely offset those days of restriction, leading to a higher daily average calorie intake than if you'd eaten moderately all along.

You're Avoiding Filling Starches (Your Secret Weight Loss Weapon)

"I was really scared of eating things like potatoes and beans because I thought they were high in calories and carbs," Chelsea admits. But she discovered these foods are actually weight loss allies. As she points out, "One pound of potatoes is only about 400 calories, while four tablespoons of oil is 480 calories – and that oil won't fill you up at all."

The key is understanding satiety – that feeling of being truly satisfied, not just full. "Think about after something like Christmas dinner and someone brings out dessert, and you're just like, 'no, I can't do it.' That's satiety," Chelsea explains. "You're not going to get that from just drinking water. You're not going to get that from just eating vegetables."

You're Following Diet Rules Instead of Understanding Calories

"I tried doing a low-carb vegan diet for a couple of months, then it was a fruit-based diet, and then it was a raw food diet," Chelsea shares. "It took me a really long time to get the information I needed."

The breakthrough came when she understood a fundamental truth: "The reason people lose weight on any diet, be that keto or high carb is that they're in a calorie deficit." She emphasizes that blindly following diet rules without understanding this basic principle leads to failure.

"When I would eat cake instead of a banana smoothie, I would give up because I'd broken the rules," she shares. Understanding calorie deficit helped her create sustainable habits instead of rigid rules.

You're Obsessing Over Other People's Diets

"Now it's funny because I see this mirrored back at me in people that message me and say, 'Why is this girl online skinny eating the way that she eats?'" Chelsea notes. She emphasizes that comparing yourself to others is counterproductive.

"Instead of focusing on what others are eating, you should be focusing on how to get into a calorie deficit from your starting point without having to cut your portion sizes," she advises. "You can do that really easily through calorie density."

You're Overexercising to Compensate for Diet

"I was doing all of this running to try and lose weight. It was so incredibly slow – I'd taken about six months to lose five kilos," Chelsea reveals. The problem wasn't just the slow progress; it was unsustainable.

"When I stopped exercising due to an injury, I gained five kilos back in the course of a month because I'd gotten used to eating such huge portions," she admits. This taught her a valuable lesson: "Exercise for your mental health. Exercise because it's really good for you, but don't rely on that as a weight loss tactic."

You're Not Understanding How Exercise Really Works for Weight Loss

Chelsea explains the science behind why excessive exercise often fails: "Let's say that you are burning 200 calories in half an hour workout. You are very, very likely to offset the extra calorie burn by moving less throughout the day. Maybe you sit on the couch more, you fidget less."

Even worse, "What happens when you over-exercise is that you get really, really hungry," she notes. "When you're hungrier, you're going to be eating more, and you're more likely to binge, you're more likely to get lots of cravings."

You're Making Everything Too Complicated

"I'm not looking for constant meal inspiration anymore," Chelsea shares. "I'm focusing on what works for me, creating meals that I enjoy, and not needing to look for constant inspiration because I understand how it works."

She points out the futility of overcomplicated meal plans: "A lot of the raw foods that I was trying to eat, I don't even have access to in New Zealand, and I definitely don't want to be eating a freezing cold smoothie in the middle of winter."

You're Setting Yourself Up for Failure with Perfectionism

"I constantly made things way too hard for me to actually stick to," Chelsea confesses. Setting perfectionistic goals and extreme rules sets you up for failure and demoralization. "When I failed, when I gave into cravings, I always felt terrible because I'd set the bar so incredibly high."

Instead, she recommends focusing on improvement rather than perfection. "Improvement looks like dealing better with failure than you did, picking yourself up," she explains. "It could look like having a slightly better version of ice cream, a lower calorie, more whole foods version of ice cream than your regular Ben & Jerry's."

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You're Not Celebrating Small Wins

Chelsea shares a success story that demonstrates the power of small changes: "One of our amazing members, Natalie, lost 50 pounds just by starting with simple improvements like putting broccoli with her side of takeout pizza rather than just having all pizza."

"When you're starting out, don't make the mistake of making things so hard to stick to and then setting the bar so high that you feel demoralized all the time," she advises. "Set it as improvement, and then you will be able to gain momentum because you feel like you're making progress."

You're Missing the Big Picture of Sustainable Weight Loss

"It's not easy to lose weight. I'm not going to tell you that it is," Chelsea acknowledges. "But it doesn't have to be as hard as struggling through a ton of rules, trying to eat tiny portions, constantly just feeling like you are ravenously hungry and wanting to binge."

Her final message is encouraging: "There is a better way. And that is to use calorie density to eat a ton of food while lowering your overall calories, not killing yourself with exercise, and focusing on improvement rather than needing to get it perfect all the time."

What Science Says About Sustainable Weight Loss

While Chelsea's experience is compelling, research backs up her approach. According to the Mayo Clinic, "A safe and sustainable rate of weight loss is 1 to 2 pounds per week." This moderate approach aligns with Chelsea's emphasis on sustainable changes over crash dieting.

The National Weight Control Registry offers encouraging data: "About 20% of people who lose at least 10% of their body weight maintain it for at least a year." The key factors for success include regular physical activity, consistent eating patterns, and ongoing self-monitoring – exactly the balanced approach Chelsea advocates.

Mayo Clinic highlights that "Sustainable weight loss requires setting realistic goals and focusing on long-term changes to eating and exercise habits. Behavioral therapy and a strong support system are often key to success." This validates Chelsea's focus on gradual improvements over dramatic transformations.

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The Power of Protein in Your Weight Loss Journey

Understanding protein's role can explain why Chelsea's approach works. The Mayo Clinic reports that "Protein decreases the hunger hormone ghrelin and increases hormones like peptide YY, GLP-1, and cholecystokinin, which promote feelings of fullness and satisfaction."

For optimal results, the Cleveland Clinic recommends that "athletes and heavy exercisers should consume 1 to 1.5 grams of protein per pound of their goal weight." However, they emphasize that recommendations may vary based on individual needs and activity levels.

Timing Your Meals for Success

Chelsea's emphasis on sustainable eating patterns is supported by research from the National Institutes of Health, which finds that "Consistent meal timing aligns with the body's circadian rhythms, potentially reducing the risk of obesity and improving metabolic health."

This is particularly important regarding evening eating. The NIH warns that "Eating during inactive periods, such as late at night, can disrupt the body's internal clock, leading to weight gain and metabolic issues." This scientific finding supports Chelsea's focus on creating sustainable daily eating patterns rather than following rigid rules.

The Secret Weapon: Meal Prep

Research strongly supports Chelsea's practical approach to meal planning. According to Harvard Health, "Preparing meals in advance allows for better portion control, reducing the likelihood of overeating and aiding in weight management."

The Mayo Clinic adds that "Regular meal preparation is linked to healthier eating habits, increased fruit and vegetable intake, and reduced consumption of processed foods." This explains why Chelsea's approach to simple, prepared meals helped her maintain her weight loss.

Getting Your Nutrition Balance Right

The Mayo Clinic recommends "a balanced diet for weight loss typically includes 40-50% carbohydrates, 25-35% fat, and 20-30% protein." This balanced approach supports Chelsea's emphasis on eating filling starches while maintaining adequate protein intake.

Harvard Health stresses the importance of fiber, noting that "High-fiber foods like fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and legumes can help control hunger and prevent overeating. Studies suggest consuming 25-30 grams of fiber daily is associated with improved weight management outcomes." This explains why Chelsea found success by incorporating plenty of whole plant foods into her diet.

Don't Forget About Hydration

According to WebMD, "Staying hydrated is important for weight loss. Drinking 8-10 cups of water daily not only supports metabolism but can also help reduce hunger by promoting a feeling of fullness." This is especially important when increasing your protein intake, as proper hydration helps with protein metabolism.

The Cleveland Clinic adds another crucial point about nutrition during weight loss: "During calorie restriction, it is crucial to meet daily requirements for essential vitamins and minerals to prevent deficiencies." This underscores Chelsea's emphasis on eating nutrient-dense, whole foods rather than just restricting calories.

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Bringing It All Together

Chelsea's journey proves that sustainable weight loss doesn't require tiny portions or extreme restrictions. Her experience, backed by scientific research, shows that understanding calorie density and following evidence-based practices allows you to eat satisfying portions while maintaining a calorie deficit.

Remember that sustainable weight loss isn't about perfection – it's about progress. As the research shows, success comes from making consistent, manageable changes rather than following extreme diets. By avoiding these common mistakes and following proven strategies, you can achieve and maintain your weight loss goals while enjoying your food and life.

The key is to focus on:

  • Eating enough calories to prevent binges
  • Including plenty of filling starches
  • Understanding basic weight loss science
  • Creating sustainable habits
  • Staying hydrated
  • Preparing meals in advance
  • Making gradual improvements

Start by choosing one area to improve, and remember that every small step brings you closer to your goals. As Chelsea's story and scientific research demonstrate, sustainable weight loss is achievable when you approach it with patience, understanding, and self-compassion. And if you enjoyed this article, take advantage of these 15 Quick Ways to Lose Body Fat Percentage in a Week.

Christopher Roback
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